tHe pRincesS DiAry

I did Gary Chapman's 5 love language quiz after reading the book and topped almost equally in Words of affirmation and Quality time. It was very refreshing, i really enjoyed the book. And there i learnt more about myself. Now i know why that walk in the night, or us taking time to talk with no distractions meant so much to me. It wasn't pursuing fairy tales or chasing after romantism... That was just me, and how i felt loved. And when i wasn't fed my love language, i was empty and disappointed. Everyone has different love languages and perceive being loved in different ways. Evaluating myself and us, i was surprised that acts of service ranked lower for me, which means i need it less. In looking at my expression of love language for him, i thought perhaps acts of service was more prominent, because i like doing things for him and taking care of him. I also liked to reassure him and affirm him when he feels discouraged. And generally i don't mind the places we go or the activities we do, as long as we are spending quality time, but i do get iffy when i feel he is distracted or not entirely there with me :( it makes me feel somewhat insignificant. I like giving him gifts and super enjoy the expression on his face when he sees them, i feel like the gift conveys my thoughts of him and how important he is to me. I also like to be close to him and bear hugs squeezes away any distance between us. Means i like to show all 5 love languages. But perceive them differently. I think i learnt to be aware of the difference between perceiving love and feeling love. Although both are important, it is good to educate your partner about which language truely gets through to your heart. If he reciprocates, you don't so much feel frustrated.. When both people speak love languages effectively to each other, they build a safe haven for communicating hurts and building one another up. Because Love is very much a choice, i choose to put myself aside and put his interest and desires before my own.

It might take hard work, but if he gives even a little, it'll mean the world to me.